To Give Someone the Ascending B.
To Give Someone the Ascending B.
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This page deals with a rather complicated interpersonal dynamic within the ascending community. I decided to call this dynamic: To Give Someone the Ascending Boot. I will do my best to explain what I mean with this term and what is behind it.
Let's first start with an example on how to use this idiom. Imagine that I have a friendship with someone and I notice something in our interaction that seems to slow down or even hurt my ascension process. I could then decide to give that friend the ascending boot, which means that I will try to stop any contact with that person in order to protect myself and my process. You try to remove that person and her or his influence from your system all together.
Within the SSoA-organization students are given the ascending boot for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes harmful patterns are discovered which could delay or endanger the process of the organization as a whole. Sometimes it is discovered that students don't carry the right genetic or holographic information to proceed. Even people who have been in the program for years can be given the ascending boot. As far as I know this is often done in a most friendly way and students accept it and take up a different path, either within another program of the SSoA or on their own, often remaining on a friendly basis with the organization. Sometimes students turn angry for all kinds of reasons, one of them being that they were not told that they could be given the ascending boot at any time. If you are familiar with a few people within the organization you would know that is an integral part of the group process: people come and go all of the time. It would be fair, however, if this were told to new students before they join the team.
I have noticed that people who are ascending are quite familiar with this process of giving other people the ascending b. In fact, I sometimes give people the ascending boot as well, in order to protect myself from harm that is most of the time unconcious.
I, however, have come to question this phenomenon for it might just be applied a bit too mechanically and automatically whenever there is some interpersonal clash in which some harm is caused. People might be given the ascending boot a bit too easily as the result of some automated response. Note that I am now referring to ascending friendships and interactions in general in which people suddenly stop writing emails or start avoiding the other.
I would like to explore a few reasons why people decide to give someone else the ascending boot. Here are a few of them:
- To End the Receiving of Harm
You end a tie with someone when you notice that you are being harmed on a frequent basis, either through emails with unconscious or even conscious harm behind it, or through more physical or verbal harm because you actually have direct person to person interactions. It makes sense to want to end this flow of harm coming towards you. It hurts and it slows down your ascension process. Why would you allow yourself to suffer or endanger your process? Give the ascending boot and move on!
- Lack of Mutual Benefit
When you notice that you don't benefit much from a correspondence or a contact, while the other is benefitting from your interaction, you may decide to give him or her the ascending boot because it costs too much energy and you get too little inspiring material in return which can help you in your ascension process (perhaps see Mutual Ascension Boost).
- Too Many Misunderstandings
When you notice that in many communications you are getting the idea that the other doesn't understand what you are trying to say, and vica versa: you and the other are explaining and correcting what has been said before because you continue to misunderstand each other. In these cases you could decide to give each other the ascending boot simultaneously.
- Out of Insecurity About your Own Process
Because you notice some harmful interaction with someone and because you are not too confident about your own process or your ability to deal with this harmful interaction, you decide to just end it all, which makes it easier for you to continue. In effect you are running away with the proverbial tail between your legs.
- Due to Some Misinterpretation
There might have been something said or written that was interpreted in a way that was completely different than the way it was meant by the other. This interpretation makes someone give the other the ascending boot.
- Out of Fear
People can give other people the ascending boot because they are afraid of what the other triggered or may yet trigger in the future, and since they don't want to travel so dangerously they end such interactions in an early stage. They are afraid to see what the other might mirror back to them.
- Out of Arrogance
You might think that you are too advanced to talk to people with a lower vibration, or perhaps with people who are not part of the community or the self study program. You have grown to believe that you are part of some elite group who is dealing with issues which are too important, too secret or simply too great for the ones out side of the elite.
- You think the Other is Rather Crazy
You might think that the way the other works with ascension is really rather insane, and you prefer not to have any contact with that person any longer.
- Because You Feel You Are Complete With that Person
You might decide to give someone else the ascending boot because you feel that the reason why you were together for a while has been worked out, it helped you both and you are through with each other, even though it is possible that the other might not realize that yet, but you think you do.
- You Think The Other is Genetically Inferior
You have determined that the other person simply is genetically inferior to you, and it would be a waste of time to continue interaction with that person. You need to move on.
- You Simply Don't Have Enough Time Available
You are only human and you cannot keep on talking to everybody, and you only have a limited amount of time at your disposal, and even though you think that other person is ok to be around with, you decide to invest in other persons who are more resonant with the process you are in.
As you can see there are many reasons to hand over the ascending B to someone. It might be a good idea to check why you want to end the communication with someone, for even though ascending initiates might think they only give someone the ascending boot in order to advance their own process, it just might be that other reasons play a part, that might even slow down their process.
There are also many ways to give the ascending boot to someone:
- Extreme Variant
You stop any contact with a person. You add the person's email address in a throw-away filter in your inbox. You don't answer the phone when the person calls and you throw away any letter that you receive, without even bothering to read it. You don't bother to reread anything that was written and you don't want to spend any single thought on that person ever again.
- Fading Out Slowly
Even though you have given the ascending boot in your mind you don't want to tell the other person, you just write less and less and hardly read anything that you receive from him or her. You hope that the person will turn silent and just leave from your social system.
- Extremely Polite Variant
You want to give someone the ascending boot, but you are afraid to be honest, and you keep on communicating with that person, even though you have ended it in your mind. You are keeping someone up in the air.
- You Talk about Why You are Giving the Ascending Boot
You write or talk about the reasons why you think it is necessary to give someone the ascending B.
Well, so much for the B's. The term was meant to be both serious and funny at the same time. I would like to hear of any ascending boots you have given or received during your ascension ride. You can mail me by clicking 
