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Masturbation with a Heart
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| Random Thoughts - February 2009 |
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INTRODUCTION
A few years ago I wouldn't have suspected that I would be investing quite a lot of energy in the exploration of the interaction between ascension, sexuality, relationships and the heart vibration. Somehow I rolled into this particular field and I intend to follow my heart and my thoughts and see where they will lead me.
In the everlasting struggle to deal with harmfulness in all its facets, I think the way people deal with sex is quite an important one. There is a lot to be gained if people could learn to deal with sexuality in a relatively harmless manner. I have spoken about different aspects of sexuality on other pages. For now I would like to spend some time and energy in the exploration of the masturbation complex.
EXPLORING THE MASTURBATION COMPLEX
I think the complexity of the masturbation complex is enormous. If you consider all the thoughts, feelings, memories, emotions that circle around it and have circled around it as the masturbation complex you could get an idea of the magnitude of it.
How would an ascending initiate deal with this phenomenon called 'masturbation'? Would he or she stop masturbating altogether, or perhaps stop having sex? I don't think so.
Let's try and embark on this topic by talking about the stimuli being used. When it comes to masturbation I have spoken to people who think differently about men masturbating with or without images/books/videos. They tend to think that people who masturbate without direct visible stimuli are somehow less 'distorted' than people who masturbate who do use these pictures or videos.
Then you have the concept of being addicted to masturbation. People who have grown to believe that they really need to masturbate in order to survive. Then there also is the tendency of the stimuli needing to get more and more extreme in order to get aroused.
Beside the perhaps slightly distorted addicted masturbation variants there are also many people masturbating in a more friendly and less addicted and less distorted way, merely for the fun of it.
IT'S ALL ABOUT THE THOUGHTS
As I grown during the years I have come to see thoughts as important elements, perhaps even the basic fabric from which I construct my life. It is for that reason that I don't tend to agree with people that say that people who watch videos and look at pictures in order to masturbate would be more 'twisted' than people who do not use these stimuli. I think you can design a kind of continuum from very harmful sexual thoughts/acts to very harmless sexual thougths/acts. A man masturbating while watching a video of two people tenderly caressing each others faces seems to be less harmful than someone imagining raping and slaughtering a naked child.
I would prefer to weigh the thoughts that swirl around ones head while being engaged in the act of masturbation. I would also like to add the reasons for masturbating. Do you masturbate out of the desire to lose some kind of charge? Are you completely addicted to it and can't you stop yourself from masturbating, or are you perhaps inclined to masturbate out of boredom? You could also want to masturbate because you like touching yourself, because you enjoy the sensation, simply because it feels good and makes you feel alive. There are many reasons why people feel like masturbating.
THE MULTI-CHAKRA PERSPECTIVE
A number of weeks ago while walking through a forest with my girlfriend a new realization dawned on me. I have always believed that in order to masturbate you needed to think about sexual matters. You could fantasize about women wearing certain clothes, acting in promiscuous ways, or having sex with them, or women masturbating or touching breasts or dicks or whatever. You could look at videos in which people have all kinds of erotic interactions or even more pornographic sex with all kinds of seemingly endless variants that are possible.
What all these themes have in common is that they are physical and centered around physical contact. You might call it the habit to concentrate on the chakra 2 level. During the last year I have learnt to open my heart more and more and the ability to actually feel the sensations in the chakra 4 region is really wonderful. When you add to that the ability to breathe more deeply and fully apply the ability to use your chakra 3 energy flow, it could pave the way for a multi-chakra experience that can hardly be compared with a solely chakra-2 based experience.
Imagine starting a 'masturbation session' from your heart, through either connecting with someone you can harmlessly connect with in order to feel the flow of the heart-energy, or through connecting with yourself through your heart. Then when you feel that throbbing, that loving feeling, you could allow the energy to spread downwards by connecting to your third chakra center by paying close attention to your breath. Expand your belly and your lungs and feel the flow of energy between your heart and your belly. When that feels satisfactory you could move even further downwards by adding the chakra-2 vibration to it.
Because of the sound connection with the third and especially the heart center it won't feel good to allow for harmful, charged or distorted sexual fantasies to fill your system. If you do opt for those kind of thoughts I am sure the connection with the other chakra's will break down and you end up with your bare chakra-2 experience.
I think that by looking at the thoughts that pop up when you connect to chakra 2 from above you can learn to weigh their level of harmfulness and decide to remove the most distorted ones by letting them melt by the warmth of your heart. I think heart-guided masturbation can be a wonderful way of clearing distortion out of our fields. Because of the ancient memories stored in our genes related to chakra-2 masturbation we should not be too harsh on ourselves when we allow for perhaps distortion or slightly harmful sexual fantasies to arise in order to get aroused, but I think it would be worthwhile to experiment with the top-down way of masturbating.
Perhaps it is far better to work from your heart downwards instead of working from your first chakra upwards as the kundalini experience would have us believe. Perhaps the danger of starting at the bottom is that you could increase the harmfulness stored in the lower chakra-centers when you move up. I would prefer to first clean up the chakra-2 region with the sweep of your heart consciousness before allowing the bottom-up kundalini movement to take place.
Please share any constructive thoughts
Gibbon
February 2009
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