Love and Curses

INTRODUCTION
In July I received an email from Ted. It dealt a bit with the concept of relationships. During this period I want to explore the ways that people might form 'ascending relationships' without the charge and load of 'normal' relationships. Which factors should be paid attention to? In Curse Removal from Love Meme I mention the possibility that perhaps the sole use of the term 'love' could already activate some ancient memories or curses that would lead to harmfulness eventually.

So, I have started to avoid the term and have found the verb 'to connect' to be a suitable alternative for 'love' where it stresses the conscious and preferably harmless connection between two people without the almost infinite connotations that belong to the term 'love'.

I have tried to be careful with the use of the word 'curse' in relation to 'love', but it seems to arouse different thoughts in different people. These responses are interesting since they allow me to specify more clearly what I mean with 'cursed elements within the love meme'.

TED: My Parents were divorced. I think wounded people
attract each other. So maybe that is the curse you
speak of. But I have been reading some books by artist
Alex Grey. Are you familiar with him? He and his wife
seem to have a great relationship and both are highly
spiritually evolved. So there must be hope.

It is interesting that you bring up the idea of 'wounded people' attracting each other as a kind of curse. This is however not really the kind of curse I am talking about here. I am exploring the possibility that despite all the beauty attached to 'love' there are ancient curses added to the concept, which might eventually lead to either harmful behavior towards each other or some mechanical mode of living together.

Of course I am not suggesting that it happens to everybody. What I would like to explore is the way that people tend to 'lose energy' in relationships and how they express harmfulness. There must be a way to understand the mechanics of this behavior and to transform it.

It makes it easier for me to conceptualize all this by thinking that somehow there are 'theocrats' or 'astral beings' that benefit from all the energy that is invested in relationships, with thoughts not unlike the ones I have suggested in the 'falling in mechanized love' article.

THE CONCEPT DIVORCE
Not only 'love' but virtually every word that is related to it has a certain set of thought-forms associated with it. In my quest for 'harmless connectivity' between people I want to clear up any possible thought-forms that might still be clogged to certain terms.

A while ago I told a colleague of mine about my own divorce a few years ago and she started to tell a story about two psychologists who had a lovely marriage and a wonderful family with two kids. They talked everything over and they appeared to live an ideal life. With a sense of joy she added that they recently split up concluding that even psychological knowledge doesn't prevent them from divorcing.

What seems to behind this story is the idea that 'a divorce is a kind of failure' and that 'staying together' is a good thing. Or that 'wounded people' end their marriages sooner because they are wounded and not able to hold on to a relationship for long. I would like to comment that I really think that quite often a divorce might signify the end of a period and the beginning of a new one. As far as I'm concerned there is no need to feel sorry for those who divorced, nor is there a reason to regard it as a failure. I would even like to add that perhaps even more people should file for a divorce, instead of remaining in a rather mechanical, hardly satisfying relationship. I have to say that I am not completely neutral towards this topic ;-)